Don’t be THAT parent and why it won’t help your child

http://recruiting-101.com/images/okstadium.jpgIt doesn’t seem to matter much what sport is being played, at what age level, or even at any location in the country.  Over the past years, there has seemed to creep up a very excessive number of obnoxious parents that are not realistic about their child’s abilities.  These parents are the ones sitting in the stands second guessing the coach and questioning every decision he or she makes.  This article is that you don’t want to be that parent.

Although I am not a parent, I know that I will likely hope that my children will excel at whatever they do, be it academics or athletics.  So while I have not worn the rose colored glasses of being a parent, I understand that many athletes themselves have a hard time judging how good or bad they really are.  And with the parents not being at practice (In the majority of the cases), it makes it even harder for them to figure out if their son or daughter should be playing.

It is very important as a parent not to berate the coaches in public or in front of your children.  This coach is someone that in most cases your children look up to and is also a vital person in their lives.  They spent a great deal of time with each other in season so talking bad about this coach will create a problem with one of the relationships.

There are also the parents that scream throughout the game and even question the coaches from the stands.  It is easy to question what is being done but I would hope that the coach has worked hard for every contest and has put his players in the right position to achieve a victory in the end.  As a parent, it is important to realize this and know that a qualified individual was hired to coach your children and you need to put your faith in them.

While some parents may disagree about the amount of playing time that their son or daughter gets, this should not be a public display of displeasure.  If anything, you as a parent should tell your child that they need to work harder in practice or should have skipped playing a season of NCAA football on X-Box 360 and instead working on their game or hit the weights.  The coaching staff is the one that has a chance to see your child perform everyday in practice.  Your son or daughter might score six points when they get an opportunity but coaches know that players earn their playing time during practice, not during the game.

Some parents take it to another level.  While they are happy with playing time, they could be disappointed with the number of shots from the floor, passes thrown, rushing attempts, or any number of things.  I think that this has a lot to do with how competitive things have been with parents hoping that they kids can earn a college scholarship.  These scholarships are worth a lot of money and can really alleviate a huge financial burden from the family.  But if your son or daughter can’t play at a high level, there is always such a thing called student loans.

The hardest part about being a parent is being subjective about how good your kid really is.  He or she may have played well against a Division I recruit in a summer game or during the season, but that doesn’t not mean he or she could play at that level in college.  If anything, talk to the coach about if your child can play athletics at a college level and what can be done.  This will get an outside evaluation from someone who should know what they are talking about.

So overall, it may not be easy but as a parent it is important to trust in your coaches.  They will likely do things that you disagree with but they have seen your son or daughter in action more often than you have.  As a coach, it is vital to let parents know your policies and not let them dictate what players play.  But that could be a whole other article.

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