I have talked about this before but I believe it is nearly impossible to take the bias out when thinking about your kids. And because each and every parent wants the best for their children, having them go through the recruiting process is never easy. Parents feel that in a lot of the cases, they are better off answering the questions for their children.
When interviewing athletes at a variety of different age groups, I have heard a lot of different responses. What I really want is the kid to be honest with me. I personally would prefer not to hear the parent in the background answering every question. But the problem is that happens and for a number of different reasons, it should not be.
The biggest and most important reason why your kid needs to be answering the questions is because they need to branch out themselves. If you are there holding their hand the entire time, unless you planning on keeping them living at home for their college years, they are going to have to be able to figure some things out on their own.
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I have also had many parents stay on the phone when interviewing their son. I can’t say that I am really sure why but you can definitely tell there is a third person listening. If a parent is interested in hearing the answers to the questions, then they probably can just sit in the same room as their child and listen.
I have also had an athlete repeat the question like he was thinking, wait for his parent to answer, and then repeat verbatim what they said. If that is the case, I might as well just be interviewing you the parent. I can hear the parent in the background and so can college coaches. It is something that is pretty obvious on any type of phone.
While it is not a huge deal when interviewing someone, it is very important that you give your son or daughter the independence to talk to the college coach alone. The fact that a parent critiquing everything that is said will only make the athlete more nervous. That will make the call much more difficult.
As a parent, you need to be able to trust that you raised your child well enough that they can handle interviews and calls with college coaches alone. It definitely is not easy but needs to be done. There may be certain situations where your child has a question for you regarding practice or the schedule but stay out of it otherwise.
Give them that independence that I am sure that they are seeking by letting them do it alone. This shows that you trust them and again, that you have raised them well enough to be comfortable talking to a college coach. While what they say likely won’t cost them a scholarship, having a parent holding their hand is not going to make it easier for them along the way.