A few weeks back I talked about how much feedback parents should get when helping their children make a college decision. And while some agreed and others disagreed, the child has to be the one making the final call because a college education is vital these days for helping your long term career prospects.
But when going through the athletic recruiting process, I have seen plenty of parents run the show. They are the ones that always seem to be asking the questions and fielding the calls. If anything, it seems like they are the ones who want to be recruited and get an opportunity to play college athletics. This is a huge problem because the entire process needs to be a joint effort between all involved.
I know that there are a lot of teenagers out there who lack social skills and just won’t ask questions unless basically forced to. But parents can be able to use this part of the athletic recruiting process as a learning tool. They need to have their children be involved as possible and that is not just for the final decision.
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The athlete must help do the research, help put together the recruiting profile, and have their hand in just about everything that is done throughout the process. If the parents are doing the college searching and marketing themselves, they are looking what they think might be a perfect for their child. Parents need to be helping here, not doing everything.
I have rarely encountered a situation where the athlete is doing all the work. What mainly happens is the parents know that their child is skilled at athletics so they want to do whatever they can to help them live their dream and get college paid for. There is nothing wrong with a parent pushing their son or daughter into a direction to help themselves get recruited and get marketed.
Yes, your child may be busy playing multiple sports, homework, and a social life. But you as a family must find a time where you can start doing things together. As a parent, you will need feedback on what they like about their recruiting profiles. Athletes need to make sure that their input is valued because this is going to be their final decision.
What happens if my child doesn’t seem to care and is not getting involved with the recruiting process? If that question is something that you are worried about, then you need to make sure that playing college athletics is really something that they want to do. It doesn’t matter if you want to live your life through them, if they don’t want to play at the next level, you will be wasting all of your time trying to help them get a scholarship. Having a love for their chosen sport is a must if they want to play in college simply because of the time that they put into it.
If they do want to play athletics in college, then they really should be interested in learning more about the recruiting process and what needs to be done to earn a scholarship offer. I will be honest; I had no clue what I was doing when I was a teenager so your child may have a similar problem. That means both parties must learn and share what they know about recruiting. That will help both the parents and the athlete get a better feel for what needs to be done.
I can promise you that if there is a joint effort involved, then there likely will be a joint decision at the end. If the parent handled the entire recruiting process and the athlete had little to do with it, that lack of investment will show at the end. A joint effort will help get everyone on the same page and know where an athlete sits in the eyes of college coaches. This is by far the best way to battle the recruiting process.